My Story

Having grown up in a very conservative Baptist home, I don't even recall the word SEX even being spoken. It was a taboo topic. In fact, I wasn't even entirely sure what it was.
The one and only time it was even hinted at was when I was 15. My Dad sat me down and had "the talk". Now, bear in mind, I was somewhat of an early bloomer. At the age of 13 I was already 6' tall and beginning to shave. By the time I was 15 I was 6'5", fully developed, wearing size 12 shoe and had finished growing.
My Dad sat me down in my bedroom in a very uncomfortable manner. This is what he said to me. "Son, you are growing up. I just want you to know that you may notice your body changing. Its normal." then after an pause, "And you might get an erection. If you do, don't worry about it. It will go away." Another awkward silence... "Do you have any questions?" "No Dad.""Well if you do just let me know."
I remember as he left my room I wasn't sure weather to laugh or cry. The main thought in my mind was "Oh Dad! If you only knew." I had already gotten my sex education by reading every book in the public library. I had already begun shaving on my own with no help or explanation. As for the erection... well...needless to say I knew all about those.
That's the only sex talk my parents and I ever had.
But it isn't the only thing they ever taught me. In future posts I'll talk more about this. In the mean time, I would love to hear your experiences. What, when, how did your parents teach you about sex? What did you learn from them? How did it impact your life? How do you differ from them?
I'm interested in knowing other people's stories. I think it could help us today have a better understanding of why everywhere we turn there is talk about sex, yet no one is really talking about it in a productive manner.
When you respond to this post include your age (if you are comfortable with that), state and sex. And anything else you think might shed light on the subject. I think we'll see some common threads after a while.
I look forward to hearing from you!

Monday, December 17, 2007

Boys like boys


My jr. high daughter told me that two boys got in trouble last week at school for making out in the hallway. I asked her if they had been a boy and a girl if would still have gotten in trouble? I was relieved to hear that yes, the "crime" was making out in the school and had nothing to do with it being a same sex couple. However it made me wonder what the parents or guardians of those boys have been teaching them about sex. I wonder what their parent's response was when they found out just why the boys had gotten in trouble that day. Hmmmm, I wonder. I remember what was going on in my mind at 13 and 14. I may have appeared quite unaffected by the world around me, but there was quite a sexual storm brewing inside of me. I can't help but think that the response these boys get from the adults in their lives will have MUCH to do with their sexual maturity in the next few years.
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Wednesday, December 12, 2007

How about this angle?

I'm wondering.... how comfortable are you talking about sex with your parents? Doesn't really matter how old you are or how old they are, how comfortable are YOU? As open as I am with my own children about sex, I'll be the first to admit that I would NOT be comfortable talking to my parents about anything sexual. It would certainly be a taboo topic. Please leave me your comments.

Take time to vote too.
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Monday, December 10, 2007

The P word and the V word


The other day I used the word "penis" during a conversation with my son and daughter. The comment was made that a close relative of theirs wouldn't have liked me using that word. Hmmmm, that got me thinking.... did your parents use correct terms like penis and vagina or did they have some slang term for those body parts? Wouldn't it be strange if we were afraid to call our arms, "arms"? What if we made a name like, "wavers" for them and used that name instead? Doesn't that sound absurd? Of course it does. So why do we avoid the use of penis and vagina like it is some kind of "bad" word?

Tell me what words you parents used or didn't use and why.
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Saturday, December 8, 2007

What about Abstinence?

Did your parents teach you "abstinence only"? How did that work for you? I'd like to hear your comments.
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Thursday, December 6, 2007

PLEASE TAKE PART IN THE POLL

Notice the poll off to the right there on the side? Please participate in this poll, its quick, easy and painless. (sounds like sex sometimes. lol)
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