My Story

Having grown up in a very conservative Baptist home, I don't even recall the word SEX even being spoken. It was a taboo topic. In fact, I wasn't even entirely sure what it was.
The one and only time it was even hinted at was when I was 15. My Dad sat me down and had "the talk". Now, bear in mind, I was somewhat of an early bloomer. At the age of 13 I was already 6' tall and beginning to shave. By the time I was 15 I was 6'5", fully developed, wearing size 12 shoe and had finished growing.
My Dad sat me down in my bedroom in a very uncomfortable manner. This is what he said to me. "Son, you are growing up. I just want you to know that you may notice your body changing. Its normal." then after an pause, "And you might get an erection. If you do, don't worry about it. It will go away." Another awkward silence... "Do you have any questions?" "No Dad.""Well if you do just let me know."
I remember as he left my room I wasn't sure weather to laugh or cry. The main thought in my mind was "Oh Dad! If you only knew." I had already gotten my sex education by reading every book in the public library. I had already begun shaving on my own with no help or explanation. As for the erection... well...needless to say I knew all about those.
That's the only sex talk my parents and I ever had.
But it isn't the only thing they ever taught me. In future posts I'll talk more about this. In the mean time, I would love to hear your experiences. What, when, how did your parents teach you about sex? What did you learn from them? How did it impact your life? How do you differ from them?
I'm interested in knowing other people's stories. I think it could help us today have a better understanding of why everywhere we turn there is talk about sex, yet no one is really talking about it in a productive manner.
When you respond to this post include your age (if you are comfortable with that), state and sex. And anything else you think might shed light on the subject. I think we'll see some common threads after a while.
I look forward to hearing from you!

Friday, November 30, 2007

I want to hear your comments

Right now I'm researching this topic for a book that I am working on. I would LOVE to hear your story, comments and questions. Please take a moment and post them here on the blog. You don't have to include your identity if you aren't comfortable with that. I just want to hear as many stories as possible. Even if you parents taught you NOTHING, they actually taught you SOMETHING by not even approaching the subject. What was it?

Maybe it wasn't your parents, but it was some other person who taught you about sex.

Take a moment and tell me about it.

Thanks!
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Wednesday, November 28, 2007

That's it?!

One of my daughter's 13 year old friends recently told her that the only thing his parents have said about sex is "Don't have sex." and "Don't you be gettin' her pregnant!"

And then we wonder why kids have problems with sex.
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