Boys like boys

My jr. high daughter told me that two boys got in trouble last week at school for making out in the hallway. I asked her if they had been a boy and a girl if would still have gotten in trouble? I was relieved to hear that yes, the "crime" was making out in the school and had nothing to do with it being a same sex couple. However it made me wonder what the parents or guardians of those boys have been teaching them about sex. I wonder what their parent's response was when they found out just why the boys had gotten in trouble that day. Hmmmm, I wonder. I remember what was going on in my mind at 13 and 14. I may have appeared quite unaffected by the world around me, but there was quite a sexual storm brewing inside of me. I can't help but think that the response these boys get from the adults in their lives will have MUCH to do with their sexual maturity in the next few years.

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How about this angle?

I'm wondering.... how comfortable are you talking about sex with your parents? Doesn't really matter how old you are or how old they are, how comfortable are YOU? As open as I am with my own children about sex, I'll be the first to admit that I would NOT be comfortable talking to my parents about anything sexual. It would certainly be a taboo topic. Please leave me your comments.

Take time to vote too.

The P word and the V word

The other day I used the word "penis" during a conversation with my son and daughter. The comment was made that a close relative of theirs wouldn't have liked me using that word. Hmmmm, that got me thinking.... did your parents use correct terms like penis and vagina or did they have some slang term for those body parts? Wouldn't it be strange if we were afraid to call our arms, "arms"? What if we made a name like, "wavers" for them and used that name instead? Doesn't that sound absurd? Of course it does. So why do we avoid the use of penis and vagina like it is some kind of "bad" word?

Tell me what words you parents used or didn't use and why.

What about Abstinence?

Did your parents teach you "abstinence only"? How did that work for you? I'd like to hear your comments.

PLEASE TAKE PART IN THE POLL

Notice the poll off to the right there on the side? Please participate in this poll, its quick, easy and painless. (sounds like sex sometimes. lol)

I want to hear your comments

Right now I'm researching this topic for a book that I am working on. I would LOVE to hear your story, comments and questions. Please take a moment and post them here on the blog. You don't have to include your identity if you aren't comfortable with that. I just want to hear as many stories as possible. Even if you parents taught you NOTHING, they actually taught you SOMETHING by not even approaching the subject. What was it?

Maybe it wasn't your parents, but it was some other person who taught you about sex.

Take a moment and tell me about it.

Thanks!

That's it?!

One of my daughter's 13 year old friends recently told her that the only thing his parents have said about sex is "Don't have sex." and "Don't you be gettin' her pregnant!"

And then we wonder why kids have problems with sex.